Blood Gang Member and Boyfriend question…PLEASE HELP!?
Question by how existential!: Blood gang member and boyfriend question…PLEASE HELP!?
Warning: This isn’t for hate, and i’m going to ignore any of the comments against me/him.
Okay, so this guy I met, we’ve been talking forever. He’s sweet and nice, and a great guy. In his Myspace profile picture, he’s flashing a gang sign. I didn’t think much of it, because i’ve dated other black guys in the past, and i’m aware since where we live (Atlanta) is populated with some harsh ghettos & lots of gangs, guys my age (13-14) do this because they think it’s funny.
Well, I was IMing him today, and I was telling him about how someone had asked me if I was in a gang, as a joke, but I was offended. He was like “Wait, what’s wrong with bloods?” and I was like “I don’t have anything against them, i’m just not in one.” and then I thought about it for a second and said “Dude, are you a blood??” and he was all “Yeah…” I don’t know what to think now. My nice, sweet, cute guy is in a gang and never told me, even when we hung out.
So, I am kind of freaked out now, and I don’t know what to do. I want to BE with him, but I can’t wrap my mind around the gang thing. It’s like, I heard gang members girlfriends are protected by the gang, but I’m thinking since i’m white, it’s not the case with me…And I don’t know how I would/could react around his gang member friends…HONESTLY, it FREAKS ME THE F*CK OUT, but I really want to be with him.
P.S. he’s only 14 and i’m almost 14. So yeah…What I want to know is:
How can I be cool with this?
Would they treat me the same way they would treat a girl of the same race as them?
PLEASE HELP ME(:
Best answer:
Answer by Kyle
You need to just stop hanging around with wrong crowd or else your gonna learn life the hard way
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Where do I start/ If you are afraid to be with a boy then you need to run!
good relationships are built on honesty… and if you’re honestly freaked out then you need to be honest with him about that. What do you know about him? Do you really know him? Open your eyes and pay CLOSE attention… look at how he ACTS what he DOES actions speak louder than words. Does he treat you respectfully? Does he treat his MOM respectfully?(Thats a good indicator of a good guy.) Some guys just claim gangs so they can look macho, its stupid but it happens.
If he is a bad guy, or gets you in trouble, puts you in harms way… know that YOU DESERVE BETTER. You deserve a boyfriend who is good, caring, loving and one that can find other ways to be a man besides violence.
Not putting him down. I know a lot of guys from a lot of different backgrounds… Bloods Crips, Latin Kings… and some of these INDIVIDUALS can be sweet. but as a whole the organizations they are a part of do some HORRIBLE things… some girls have reported joining gangs by being “sexed in” meaning you’d have to sleep with EVERY member of a gang. It’s best not to get caught up in that stuff!
please get out now, as much as you like him, gangs are really dangerous and you need to get out while you can.
Girl, get out. I know I’m a white guy, but I have a really good friend who’s black and he used to be in a gang and hes been tellin’ me stories of how bad it is, no matter if you are not involved with the gang. He’s 26 now, and have a better life and moving on. Gang members often don’t live long. I don’t mean to be blunt, but your boyfriend have a higher chance of being killed on the streets. It doesn’t matter if ur involved or not. Gang members often target loved ones. If your boyfriend happen to insult an opposing gang member, they could come on you as a target and kill you for revenge. I know this, they will target anyone. I’ve been robbed at gunpoint twice in D.C. just because I walked down the wrong neighborhood while being white. I’ve been robbed and beaten down cuz I accidentally made eye contact and robbed again. I’m not a gang member myself, but even there’s a risk. Being with someone who are involved with a gang, there are a bigger risk. I don’t mean to scare you, but this does happen. I know its hard to let someone you care about go, believe me, Ive been there. But you’re only 14. You got a whole life, opportunites and future ahead of you. If you stay with that boy, that opportunity could abruptly stop anytime when you at least except it. If I was in your shoes, I would look for a guy who got a better future, and you can always stay friends with him, as long as you keep ur nose and eyes away from the gang business.
Please feel free to ask me for more questions or advice anytime at [email protected].. Kudos.