Drug Possession: Alcoholic Abusive Husband & I Am 10 Wks Pregnant?
Question by Allison: alcoholic abusive husband & I am 10 wks pregnant?
I have been married to my husband for a lil over 3 yrs. now. He is a beligerant alcoholic, becomes physically violent and abusive to me and even more emotionally abusive. He says terrible cold things to me that I would never say to him or anyone. He is very cold and hateful (even when he is sober) He is manipulative and has brainwashed me for solong now its like he is all I know. I left him a week ago and am with my parents but I can’t seem to just let go. He doesn’t even act like it bothers him I left and calls to tell me he is going to find him another woman and move her into our apartment and that I am a stupid b**ch and a sorry piece of sh*t. I have been trying so hard to make it work but he has given nothing in return besides paying bills. He has destroyed my confidence so much that I have withdrawn from my friends and have developed panic disorder. So I haven’t had a job in about 2 years. I want to just forget about him but the minute I think that he’s with another woman and treating her with kindness, respect, and affection I call him to see who’s there or what he’s doing. He’s such a jerk and I think suffers from borderline personality disorder along with having a history of drug abuse. Since I have become pregnant he has become even more distant and cold and only shows me affection or attention when he wants sex. When that is over he’s back to being distant again. Now that I have become pregnant he say I am no fun anymore because I have no interest in going out to bars and obviously would not drink. He doesn’t want me to drink but wants me to tolerate his obnoxious drunk behavior. He beats me down emotionally with cruel cruel insults. I am an attractive girl who is 8 yrs younger than him and always hear people say that I deserve better. What can I do to just let go of an obvious loser?
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Answer by Tom
Lose that zero, and get with this hero….;-)
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you have done the right thing by leaving him…you have to now leave him and forget him for life.
its very unfortunate that your having his child he will always be apart of your life and the child.
dont ever let it cross your mind that he is treating another woman with love respect and care your having his child and he dont give a hoot.
you defiantly dont need him and need to move on. otherwise you will live a very miserable life…thats not what life is all about.
didnt you know he was kinda like this before you married him..and on top of that your having his child???
what were you thinking hun??
Stay the hell away from that idiot, he will eventually kill you.
Why did you marry him then?
you can go to a womens shelter if you don’t wanna leave him flat out & they can help you
Counseling; you really need counseling. do NOT return to him because it will only get worse. Find a battered women’s shelter
and ask for a referral to a good counselor. Tell them what you have told us. They will point you in the right direction.
You took the major first step by leaving him.He is more than a loser.He is dangerous and with that behavior could kill you. I’m sure you heard those stories.Your unborn baby is your prority.Did you take out an order of protection? When you start to feel “sorry” for him,think that one day you can wake up dead.Take care of yourself and hopefully get counseling.I wish you healing and saftey from the beast.
The longer you stay with that dysfunction, the longer it is going to be for you to get well. (emotionally). Do yourself and your baby and leave. He needs treatment and sounds like several different treatments for various issues. You need to let him deal with that on his own because the stress of a marriage and baby is going to make it that much harder for him to seek treatment,change,get well..You need to worry ONLY about you and baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!