Is My Boyfriend Addicted to Cocaine?
Question by Marisa H: Is my boyfriend addicted to cocaine?
Hey Everyone,
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for just over a year (I’m 23, he’s 24) I knew before I met him he did cocaine once and awhile (Well, once a month is that he told me) then once he met me he stopped. Never touched the stuff for almost a year. Then last weekend we got into a fight and he did cocaine that night. We’ve made up and he says that he’s going to start using it more like he did before he met me… IS that an addict? Using it once a month? Should I be worried or just accept it?
Best answer:
Answer by Jon Allen
im sorry … maybe its just me… but youre talking about a guy that literally does cocaine! Why would you be asking if he is an addict? Doing cocaine is just not that normal to me. Id never have anything to do with any cocaine addicts, user, etc. Up your standards woman!
Answer by Kyzmet
Addicts CAN’T STOP using. Once a month is definitely not an addiction, IF he can keep it to that. Sounds like he’s just a casual user, I would probably just accept it but keep a close eye on it and make SURE it didn’t start getting much more frequent than that, because it can get out of hand fast. Not that I would know or anything. 🙂
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um hunny, if he’s using a drug at all he’s an addict. he’s saying he’s going to go back to using drugs. thats what addicts do. just because he doesnt do it as frequent as say your local homeless crackhead does not by any means mean that he is not an addict. you should certainly encourage him to get help for it although i doubt he sees doing it occasionally as a problem so he may just get angry by you even suggesting it. honestly… do you want to marry a cokehead? if your answer is yes, then stay. if your answer is no… then leave. i doubt your children if you were with this guy long term would want a father whose a cokehead either. cut your losses and move on with your life.
any time you use drugs it is an addiction. Hopefully he will realize it’s not working for him.
He has stopped in the past, maybe something will trigger him to stop again.
You should let him have some time and if things continue, just talk to him. Making him angry will push him towards drugs. It’s not your fault it is an excuse for him to use them.
If he continues, just tell him you only want to see him when he is not on it.
good luck!
sounds like he’s using already. why bother? this is a bad road and for most people it doesn’t end well. Just either accept that he uses whenever he wants and don’t worry about it or move on, but trust me being with someone that uses truly can drive you mad. you probably will excuse this to yourself and say he’s not like that but chances are that if you are already worried him using more isn’t going to make you feel less.
If he has to use coke to cope with things then he’s dependent on the coke. He used it to cope with your fight. It’s interesting he went back to using around the time of his 1st year anniversary of sobriety. That is very common.
He may be doing this because he wants to end the relationship, but is a coward, so he sets up a situation where you’ll break up with him.
Using cocaine is not a casual user if he’s using it to deal with his issues. To use your words…yes he’s an addict…& you should be worried.
Start going to Alanon to get support for what you are doing.
I would suggest you go for individual therapy or couples counseling to deal with the issues between you IE: Where you were in the relationship; were you both on same page. Did you fight a lot, etc.
Good luck