My Girlfriend Occasionally Does Cocaine, Marijuana and Ecstasy. How Can I Get Her to Stop?
Question by BobbyP7: My girlfriend occasionally does cocaine, marijuana and ecstasy. How can i get her to stop?
My girlfriend occasionally does cocaine, marijuana and ecstasy. We’re talking like once every 6 months. How can i get her to stop?
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Answer by The Luke
Tie her to a chair so she physically cannot.
Answer by shazzajay
talk to about why she does it, what its doing to her body etc
id she doesn’t respond try some professional help
be thankful it once every 6 months, it could be much worse
Tell her parents and get her into trouble. Daddy won’t be happy.
All drug use is risky. Fact. However, her use is low, and it doesn’t sound too risky, although irregularly buying ecstasy from different dealers is dangerous.
Using once every six months implies that she does it to let off steam/have a REALLY good night out. If you want her to stop, I see two choices you can take. but first, remember you cant make her stop. Only she can want to stop.
First option; you discuss the risks she is taking, and explain that you are unhappy with them, and ask her how she sees the risk. Gently and non-coercively, you need to talk about these, and increase her understanding of these risks. Scaring her won’t do the trick, she needs to make up her mind based on as much truth as is available on illicit substances.
Second option, you could explain that you are unhappy with her drug use, and explain the tension it causes within you. You’d both need to reach an understanding of how the other person felt, and then reach a compromise. This might involve compromise on your part as well, and shouldn’t be a “Stop using or I’ll break up with you” statement.
Love, empathy and patience. She may not want to stop, and you need to work out how this impacts you and what you want from the relationship
Since she’s only using them every 6 months, it won’t be hard for her to stop. She hasn’t used the cocaine/ecstasy enough to physically crave it, so just talk to her. Next time she tells you she’s going out to do whatever drug, stop her. Ask her if instead, she’d like to accompany you (sober) to dinner or a movie. Since she’s not actually abusing the drugs, you won’t need any help from a clinic or interventionalist. Just tell her it makes you uncomfortable and you’d like it if she stopped all together.
You don’t.
If she wants to stop, she will. Otherwise, she won’t.
Remember that you don’t own your girlfriend. She gets to live how she wants to live.
However, you are (of course) free to indicate that you don’t approve of it when she uses drugs.
stop being a pussy
do it as well
give her the facts of each one. The scariest is ecstasy, that’s some messed up sH*t, lol. . i know. . tried it before. Secondly, cocaine. Ask her how does she like the person she becomes or just the feeling when it’s gone. That “i need more” feeling. Even if she controls it, it’s still playing with fire. . .with a can of gasoline in one hand. Don’t be worried about marijuana. Look up the facts about it, it’s harmless in essence. People do abuse marijuana, but it’s a psychological thing. If she’s only smoking here and there, no biggie. the biggest concern would be to make sure where she’s getting it from
Leibniz is kind of right on this one, unless SHE wants to stop, it’s probably not going to happen, no matter what you say or do. This is why no one on the show Intervention every really stays sober. It sound like the drug use is pretty recreational, so that’s good, and she might just grow out of her drug using phase, so long as she’s not actually “addicted” to any of it. I did quite a bit of ecstasy, and smoked pot every day, and eventually just stopped. Other things became more important. I suppose if it bothers you a whole lot, the most you can do is tell her how you feel about it, and if her not using AT ALL means that much to you, you may have to leave the relationship behind. Personally, I would just stick it out, once every half year isn’t that devastating in my opinion. Good Luck!
Focus on cocaine first, tell her you don’t care so much about the others since cocaine is by FAR the worst, trust me. Then if you get her to stop that do the same with ecstasy and tell her you dont care so much about the pot. One step at a time is much better than cold turkey. Pot is not an issue, the only harm from it comes from the prohibition of it, however some people that have gone as far as coke and quit can’t do anything anymore w.o a relapse, including alcohol. But take it a step at a time, tell her how much you care about her and what i means to you that she stops.